Freeing The Voices Of Those Living With Childhood Domestic Violence And ACE's

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‘Childhood Domestic Violence (CDV) is one of the most pervasive human rights issues of our time”  (UNICEF)

Voices Set Free along with the Childhood Domestic Violence Association, NYC, are hosting training and educational forums in Oregon that address CDV. These workshops are designed for all people that engage with children and adults impacted by Childhood Domestic Violence. Growing up with CDV is the SINGLE BEST PREDICTOR of engaging in it later as an adult.

Brian F. Martin, founder of CDVA, and author of the book INVINCIBLE, is leading the way the world understands and treats CDV. Together our mission is to educate and resolve the issues relating to Childhood Domestic Violence.For more information contact Louise Bauschard, LCSW

Over 31,000 Oregon children of domestic violence received Domestic Violence services in FFY 2015.

Those who grow up with domestic violence are
          6 x more likely to commit suicide,
          50 x more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol
          74 x more likely to commit a crime

Childhood Domestic Violence is directly correlated with difficulties learning, lower IQ scores, deficiencies in visual-motor skills and problems with attention and memory.

Living with CDV significantly alters a child’s DNA, aging them prematurely 7-10 years.

Children from homes with violence are much more likely to experience significant psychological problems.

1 in 3 women and 1 in 7 children have experienced abuse.

​​Family violence is a pattern of coercive and/or violent tactics perpetrated by one person against a family member or intimate partner, with the goal of establishing and maintaining power and control over that person.

Family violence can happen in all kinds of intimate relationships, including married couples, people who are dating, couples who live together, people with children in common, same-sex or gender-nonconforming partners, people who were formerly in a relationship with the person abusing them, and teen dating relationships.

Types of family violence
Abusive behaviors are not symptoms that someone is angry or out of control. An abuser makes a deliberate choice to exert power and control over his or her partner.

Physical abuse

  • Pushing / shoving
  • Slapping
  • Kicking
  • Punching
  • Strangulation
  • Use of objects to strike the victim (belt, umbrella, etc).
  • Striking objects, the wall, etc. in view of the victim as a threat of violence

Emotional abuse
Emotional abuse is a tool used by those who want to make their partners feel scared, crazy, worthless, or responsible for the abuse. The abuser's goal is control over the victim. Emotional abuse may include:

  • Making jokes about the victim
  • Insults
  • Criticizing the victim's competence
  • Ignoring the victim's feelings
  • Withholding affection as a form of punishment
  • Blaming the victim for all problems
  • Yelling at the victim
  • Humiliating the victim in front of others
  • Accusing the victim of being the abusive partner
  • Threatening to take the children away from the victim
  • Threatening physical violence
  • Threatening suicide to punish the victim

Sexual abuse
Sexual abuse is one of the least discussed, but most common, forms of family violence. Sexual abuse may include:

  • Sexual jokes that make the victim uncomfortable
  • Treating women as sex objects
  • Criticizing the victim's sexuality
  • Using sexual jealousy as a tool of control
  • Uncomfortable or unwanted touch
  • Withholding sex as punishment
  • Demanding sex
  • Flaunting affairs
  • Rape
  • Sex after beatings
  • Sexual torture

Social abuse
Social abuse is used to isolate the victim from others in the community. The fewer people the victim is connected with, the more control the abuser has over the victim. Examples of social abuse include:

  • Insisting that the couple spend all their time together
  • Discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family
  • Forbidding the victim to see friends or family
  • Monitoring the victim's mail or phone calls
  • Checking the odometer
  • Restricting access to the car or car keys
  • Telling others the victim is crazy or abusive

Financial abuse
Abusers often attempt to establish financial control over victims. Victims who are financially dependent on abusers have fewer resources for escape. Financial abuse includes:

  • Making all financial decisions for the household
  • Keeping financial secrets
  • Monitoring the victim's spending
  • Controlling the victim's access to cash
  • Refusing to let the victim work
  • Forcing the victim to turn over income to the abuser

What is childhood domestic Violence

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